Most of us look to our present results for validation, if they are good; it gives us a sense of pride and achievement. If our results are poor we bash ourselves mentally and we make ourselves feel lousy for not doing better. We have been conditioned to live our lives from the outside – in. We look to our environment and our surroundings, other people’s opinions of ourselves to determine our self-worth. If we are acceptable and liked by other we seem to like ourselves more. Why is it that the outside world has our emotions under control in this way?

This is how we were conditioned…We behave in ways that make us acceptable to the group culture when we are growing up and in time we become a product of this culture. We think, feel and act accordingly and if you were to do otherwise you may be looked upon differently.

The culture we grow up in has a huge effect on our self-image and our beliefs. Because everyone in the group tends to have similar habits and culture, we tend to fall in and may live our whole lives without questioning where these habits came from and examining whether they still serve us or not.

My challenge to everyone reading this today is to start living from the inside. Decide what YOU want to do and how you want to live. Even if you have no idea HOW you will achieve this new goal it doesn’t matter. The most important thing is to make a decision and stick to it. Once the decision is made the way will be shown. Then the next challenge is to shut out all the negative influences in your environment. TV, news and media are all other people’s opinions and we should not allow others opinions to dictate the way we feel and think about ourselves and our potential. There is a lot of negativity out in the world we all know this, so then… is it really necessary that we fill our minds with it every day? If you are in the process of creating a positive and creative life would it serve you to follow all the negative stories that are perpetuated in the media? You decide.

We have everything we need inside us, although the material world would make you believe this isn’t true… decide for yourself…Create an image of the life you want to live and get busy creating it. If not now then when?

And if you need the assistance of a coach or mastermind group to help you speed up your progress I would love to partner up with you. I have been accredited to Facilitate Bob Proctor and Sandy Gallagher’s Thinking Into results program so feel free to contact me or comment and thanks for reading.

People are always blaming circumstances for what they are. I don’t believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and, if they can’t find them, make them. George Bernard Shaw.

Our Self concept is made up of three parts:-

1) Our Self Image

2) Our Self Ideal

3) Our Self Esteem

1) The Self Image

This often defined as the “kind of person we see ourselves as”. Some people may say “Well, I am a shy person. I don’t like talking to strangers”.

This is a very good example because this is something our parents told us not to do from a very young age. Perhaps causing us to believe that all strangers are bad (depending on the intensity and repetition of this statement). At the time this was very good and valid advice but over time this programming becomes a limiting belief which controls our actions and interactions in the world.

The Self Image is also limited by our habit patterns or paradigms. I may see Myself as a poor public speaker. Not because this is true, but because I have not yet developed the habits of a highly effective speaker. If I attend voice training lessons, seek out speaking opportunities and develop my skills as a public speaker, I will begin to change the way I see and feel about myself. This is sadly true because a lot of us are controlled by our present results. We see or perceive ourselves to be weak in a certain area and this makes us feel inferior, creating a self fulfilling cycle. We wait for physical proof that we can do it before we believe we can. We live from the outside, in. There are much better and more reliable ways of changing the Self Image by using imagination and concentration, we begin to see ourselves as a speaker from the inside out. We build a new image of ourselves as great speakers.

The Self Image is an inner representation of how we see ourselves, it is governed by our subconscious mind and we know that the subconscious mind and nervous system cannot tell the difference between what is real and imagined. So we use our imagination to become better at public speaking, or anything for that matter. (This will be discussed in depth in another article specifically on the Self Image).

This brings us to the second part of the Self Concept -

2) Self Ideal

This is the “me” I aspire to be. My ideal personality. The level of success and achievement we expect from ourselves can be determined by our ambition. Also, the kind of influences we have in life will play a role in this. Our Self Ideal is the Self we want others to see in us. It is the part of ourselves that we compare our actual present selves with.

Sometimes we hold on to a Self ideal that no longer serves us. Not because we are not able to achieve that ideal self but perhaps because we have changed our desires and grown into a new different ideal. Sometimes when we are younger, we may aspire to be like someone else whom we see is held in higher regard. As we grow and develop ourselves, it is important to make sure we have a clear mental image of what we want to be like, what we want to do, have and to become. If we hold an image of our ideal selves and we keep seeing that our current results do not stack up well, it negatively influences our Self esteem.

If we have a healthy Self ideal, one which truly reflects our burning desires, we can shape our daily thoughts, feelings, habits around them. Thus bringing ourselves closer to the ideal in every action. When we are congruent in our Self ideal as well as our attitude (Thoughts, feelings and actions) we develop a positive Self esteem.

3) Self Esteem

This is the product of your Self ideal and your Self image. Self esteem is the result of genuinely liking yourself and accepting both your strengths and weaknesses.

If we have a positive Self ideal and our current results (our present Self image) are moving us toward that ideal, we can develop a positive Self esteem. Negative Self esteem develops when our ideal Self and our Self image are very different. We feel that we should be achieving much more with our lives but for some reason we are not. This creates a gap between what we feel we are capable of and what we are actually doing or our present results. Self esteem develops from having a positive regard for ourselves.

Having a healthy Self esteem is vitally important to all of us. Yet, if we do not understand how Self esteem comes about we can struggle and frustrate our selves even more. Let’s focus today on developing unconditional acceptance of ourselves (Self esteem). If we choose a path, let’s be sure that it is our own path and not that of our family, friends or society.

When our goal is set we focus on thinking in the certain way which always brings results. We see ourselves as capable and creative beings, and then we move forward by ensuring that we feel good about ourselves and our new image, and most importantly, we take action to create our new improved lives. The life we really want can be created but we must first know exactly what that ideal life is. We must have a clear mental image of what we want and dwell upon it until becomes fixed in our subconscious minds. Then the habits needed to step into our ideal lives will be developed and our results will change.

With an understanding of the Self concept we are better able to adjust our Self image more in line with our Self ideal and continuously strive to close that gap and in so doing increase our Self esteem.

Ramon Watson is a dynamic Thinking into Results facilitator with Bob Proctor. He is passionate in providing service and giving people more of the means of life. If you want to improve any area of your life contact Ramon on

Cell (+27)73 980 8461

Or email on ramon@livingyourpassion.co.za

So one would naturally think that all it takes to draw what you want into your life, would be to think about the things you want in a way that you already have achieved it right?

But there is more to it than that, although we use our conscious minds during normal waking hours, it is not our conscious mind which dictates our habits and habitual thinking or our emotions and our habitual responses.

It is a mind much, much more powerful than the conscious mind which does these things.

The subconscious

Or that part of the mind which is below the conscious.

Another way of looking at it is the mind which is subject or under the control of the conscious mind.

All you need to do to get the results you want is to give your subconscious mind the feeling that you already have the thing you want.

Once your subconscious mind is convinced that you have it, it will bring the object to you in one of the ways of the universe.

Turn over your request for whatever you want in absolute faith in a relaxed and expectant mood and your subconscious mind will do the rest.

Your subconscious mind will not respond, if you force.

It responds to ideas that are accepted by your conscious mind, and if your imagination (or mental images) are in alignment with you desires, your subconscious will act on it.

Give your subconscious mind a direct and unambiguous goal to seek and conclude with certainty that there is a solution and that you will find it.

According to your belief it is done unto you.

Decree, health, happiness, financial freedom and you will have it.

But remember the only way to access the subconscious mind is by relaxing and allowing the conscious mind to quiet down.

Be specific, get a clear mental picture of the desired result,the happy ending and dwell on this image with all your emotions and focus.

Your new image must be felt subjectively.

Your conscious mind will try and get in your way, just sidestep any doubts and believe that it is.

Belief – to accept something as true.

The universe responds to your feeling.

Through relaxation you allow the kinetic energy behind the idea to take over and bring it into creation.

Law of reversed effort, when your desires and imagination are in conflict.

Your imagination will gain the advantage.

Mental force will always be futile.

The subconscious mind will accept the stronger of the dominant thoughts in the mind.

Think of a mental block in a an examination room.

The unison of conscious and subconscious mind will allow the manifestation of what you want.

Think about your life the way you want it , FEEL that you have already achieved it, let the emotions sink in. ACT with your whole mind focused only on the result you want. Do every action with the absolute faith that your goal is already yours and do each small action in a successful way.

What will you choose to create?

To your success!

Setting goals is a conscious activity.We decide what we want and build an image of it or write it down. What we have not been taught is that goal achieving is a subconscious activity, involving daily habits and beliefs. That’s why those who achieve great success seem to be doing it automatically. That’s because it is! they have changed their habits and beliefs and hey succeed predictably.

After studying highly successful people and adopting their strategies I have found that goal achieving can be broken into six steps.I have designed an online goal setting course that will take you through these six steps, so that you too can make success a habit.

Click on the programs for leaders link above to sign up for this 6 part ecourse.

The law of all life is growth. All living things must grow if it continues to exist at all. Human beings are the same, we are either growing, expanding, stretching or were dying. At least this is what I have experienced in my own life.

When I first looked at this picture, I admired its obvious beauty and the expression of life and growth in its most natural state. Then i looked into it a bit further.

As beautiful as this little bud is, it only has so much room to grow. It is limited by its environment. The pot it sits in allows the roots to stretch out only so much, which ultimately limits the growth of the plant and prevents it from expressing its true beauty and potential to flower.

If the objective of all life is growth and expression and the environment that growth is exposed to is limited, then surely we are limiting life itself. In a similar way I find that being in the same environment day to day, exposed to the same limitations and space, we sometimes conform to those limits.
When I speak of environment, I consider the house we live in , the company we work for the social groups we get involved in and also the inner environment of self, our predominant mental state as well as our attitudes towards life and our role in it.

If we have outgrown our current environment then we must endeavor to move to a bigger arena, a larger “pot” so to speak. That involves taking a risk, the risk that we might fall at first and the understanding that falling and stumbling is a necessity of growth. We must become uncomfortable and place ourselves “out of our depth” for only then can we grow and expand our roots allowing our fruits to fully express themselves.

Which areas in your life are inhibiting you today? Is it the outer environment that you exist in, or is it a limiting belief, attitude or self image which holds you back .Whatever it is,  make a decision not to remain a seedling in life but to grow fully and express your own unique individuality. Come on … The world is waiting for you. It will be worth it !

When anyone achieves anything of real significance you know that they had other people in their team.
As human beings we cannot really function at a high level on our own.

Masterminding is something that needs to be experienced to be understood properly.It is a completely creative environment. Everyone in the group has knowledge and experience that they use to help you achieve your dreams.

I am very fortunate to be part of a powerful global mastermind group. Made up of individuals who, on their own are incredibly inspiring to me. And when this group gets together something special happens every time. I have changed my own ideas of what I thought I was capable of, simply by being in a supportive group with these people. The feeling of having these geniuses supporting me is indescribable.

There are three important aspects to a mastermind.

1) There must be a state of complete harmony between the members in a mastermind. We operate on the principle of cooperation and we create. Competition is old news
2) Knowledge in and of itself is useless. When you join in a mastermind the knowledge of the group is available to you.This knowledge is highly specialized and we intelligently direct it to create your result. That is a powerful idea.
3) Co ordination of effort of two or more people who work towards a definite objective.

I will be kicking off up to three mastermind groups in the next few weeks.
The groups will be small so that each member can share their story and have the group provide input.
The group will be 1 hour long either in person or on skype and we will be covering a book study on You Were Born Rich by Bob Proctor. I guarantee you will gain immense confidence and momentum in your life.

Please email me directly or comment if you want more information
Thanks for reading !

I am committed to personal growth, constantly developing my skills and abilities. My passion is in helping others succeed greatly. I am very fortunate to have been mentored by, and now a Thinking into Results facilitator with Bob Proctor from the movie The Secret. I have studied from the best in the world. We all have big dreams that seem to get squashed by our circumstances and environment but this doesn’t have to be. You can succeed in any environment when you take control of you. So if you want to make big changes in your results, please contact me for a  20minute consultation. We will discuss what your big goal really is and what it is that’s standing in your way of getting it. If you know what you want, I can show you how to create it. Consultations can be done in person, via skype or telephone
You may contact on:

Cell  +(27)73 980 8461
Or email on ramon@livingyourpassion.co.za

Level 1 Animal : Flight or fight

In our evolutionary process this the most primal. This is the animal instinct within us that we call on in times of intense danger. The human nervous system is automatically setup to react to danger by flooding the body with neoro-chemicals like adrenaline that help us survive in life threatening situations. There is no conscious decision making process involved it is all reaction. based on instincts.

Level 2 : Mass
This is the herd mentality. If we look at how masses of people live, think and work we can see that there is a definite pattern in behavior. Many people , if you stopped to ask them why they do the same thing every one else does and they would probably say that they have to, they have no choice… This really isnt true,we all have a choice all the time This is the stage of conformity just doing what is expected and predictable. There is no real thinking that happens here.

Level 3 : Aspiration
This is where an individual realizes that they want something more, something different from the herd behavior and results experienced by the majority of people.They aspire to be, do or have more in their life.This does not mean that they act on this idea, it is just the desire for something different.

Level 4 : Individual
This is the stage where an individual shrugs off the paradigms or habits of the group culture and decides to express his or her own unique approach , philosophy or preference. It takes courage to act out of the norm. It is to risk being ridiculed and laughed at. Being criticized for being different. The mass simply don’t realize that they have accepted a certain paradigm and never ever questioned it. Here the individual Steps out and expresses his uniqueness

level 5 : Discipline
Discipline, here the individual becomes more serious about his pursuit of growth. He develops positive habits and a strong self discipline. He is improving his skills and adopts new growth startegies that he applies consistently. Now further separating himself from the mass of individuals who conform to group behaviour.

Level 6 : Experience
Gathering feedback data from his actions , trying out new strategies, he begins to see patterns of what works and which actions are not successful. He has accumulated experience through action, observation and feedback Here the person can fine tune his strategies and tactics.becoming more efficient in doing the right things in the right way every time.

Level 7 : Mastery
Mastery is self evident. This individual has completely distinguished him or herself from the crowd and the competition.He is widely regarded as an expert. People go to him for advice and people associate this person with excellence in what they do. Here the person has developed the faith and courage to do many things successfully. They have mastered themselves and their results.

Where are you on this chart? Are you still in the mass and conformity level or have you stepped out and gone against the status quo? Are you looking to grow more and develop your skills and discipline to achieve more in you life or business? Is there any area of your life you could improve?

I know there is something bigger that you want, Its just out of reach of where you are right now.
Maybe all you need is an objective assessment of what the gap is between what you know and what you do.
I can help you close this gap.
If that’s the case I would be honored to help you move to the next level.

Please contact me by email or telephone, details below

Or email on ramon@livingyourpassion.co.za